“We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
Frederick Keonig
Witnessing a wedding ceremony is such an emotional experience, as we watch two individuals pledge their lives to one another. My brother-in-law got married yesterday at Laguna beach as the sun set. Always on that hopefilled day it seems as if love will last forever, each party so filled with love and fervent commitment. And in other cases one party walks down the aisle with doubts and missgivings, or a weight in their hearts that knows "this is probably not right but I cant turn back now."
People marry for a miriad of reasons; to escape a situation in their family, to evade a life of loneliness, because the body clock is ticking loudly, because this person is the best they feel they can hope for even if something feels missing! Its no wonder 50% of marriages end in divorce. Even those marrying for the right reasons are not guaranteed that things will work out but at least they give the relationship the best chance possible.
Maturity and wisdom, the wisdom of knowing ourselves well, is a great benefit. Not needing the other to fulfill a need we have or fill the gaps in our lives we are not prepared to fill ourselves is a good place to start. It's so interesting that when we are giving ourselves support, taking care of our own joy and living our passion, how that person shows up to be our cheerleader. It gives us so much freedom to feel the commitment we give is out of devotion rather than duty.
If expectation can be replaced by intention then we each stand in our own power, creating rather than passively awaiting our needs to be met. This awareness of my power to create love and my constant gratitude for what I have has made all the difference in my marriage. I also chose well, someone who practices daily appreciation of life itself. That trait in itself is priceless. What do you feel has made the difference in your relationships?
“Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.” Anon
In and through all things Love is the message that Spirit would have us know; that we are loved, that we are love and that love is always the answer. Let the words you read here be a message for you today from the Universe that created you, perfect as you are.
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